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Day 8: My Sex Tips For Virgins

Inspired by:

For Guy Virgins: Basic Things No One Told Me About Sex (Dating Groundwork)

Sex Tips for Lady Virgins (Jezebel)

1. Despite what anyone tells you, your virginity is not a sacred gift. It's not something you own and it's not something that makes you a better person. On the flip side, if you want to do it but haven't, it's not a burden or an indication that you are a leper who will never get laid. It just makes you some one who hasn't done it yet. That's all it is. You will do it and realize that sex is many things but never let it define your worth.

2. Your sex is not like anybody else's. It isn't like it is in porn or in movies and it isn't even the way your friends may have described it to you. It's yours. Maybe your first time will hurt, maybe it won't. Maybe you'll bleed, maybe you won't. Maybe what all your friends think is weird is what turns you on during sex and you are feeling like a freak. Don't get caught up in this - it's all up to you and who you're hanging with. The important thing is to have fun.

3. Always pee after you do it. I don't care if it's cold, I don't care if you don't want to put pants on or a robe and you may have to go out into your dorm hallway or walk past his parent's bedroom or walk past his giggling housemates, you will pay very dearly if you don't pee. Why? The proof that God hates women: the UTI, or urinary tract infection. When I volunteered at a women's sexual health clinic, Monday mornings were known for two things: girls wanting the morning after pill (more on this later) and UTI appointments. This typically happens when you have a lot of sex in a short amount of time or really rough sex. Anyway, can be avoided by peeing afterwards. You'll thank me later.

4. Dudes like what you look like naked. There are literally millions of articles written in women's magazines about how to hide your imperfections from men and you may as well burn all of those rags in a big giant trash heap because the truth is that they aren't noticing. And if they are, they likely think whatever body part you despise is adorable and they want to do dirty things to it.

Same goes for underwear. There is a particular type of dude who is really into women's lingerie but really, I have learned buy cute underthings for one person: me. I'm not saying to bust out the hanes her way period underwear when you go on dates, but if you're spending hundreds of dollars on Agent Provocateur in the hopes that your man will notice for longer than one second, I say stop doing that and instead invest your money into regular waxing or a Gillete Mach 3 The results of the latter will be far more appreciated than an 100 dollar thong.

5. TALK to your partner. This one is hard - women in general have a hard time speaking up for what they want and we are totally conditioned to believe that sex is just going to magically be perfect. This is totally not true. Sometimes sex is work. Sometimes you have to be the writer, producer, director AND star of the show, you know what I'm saying? If the dude does not appreciate that you dare question his stunning technique, then I say, it is high time to pull your panties on and get out of there. A guy worth having sex with wants nothing more than to make YOU happy, he should be thanking his lucky stars you are even there.

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