Feb/088
The tyranny of the "drinks" date
I'd like you to meet my new coach in life & love, Patti Stanger. I am unsure about what is happening to me, but I think my year of single dom is starting to wear on me because while watching my new trash tv addiction, The Millionaire Matchmaker, I find myself agreeing with a lot of what this insane bitch says. And After a date that ended pretty terribly a few days ago (no details please, suffice to say I will not be receiving emails from this gentleman any longer), I feel I need to institute a new rule for my dating life inspired by Patti. And that is: No more "drinks" dates. I don't know if this is a an online dating thing or a modern dude OMG I'M SO BUSY thing but I am sick of dates that are just drinks. And I refuse to go on them any longer.
Patti breaks it down like this: "coffee is cheap and drinks are an audition". My thoughts exactly. Besides, coffee dates are for meeting for a job interview or when you meet up with your friends who work downtown. And I understand that the point of a "drinks" date is just in case you have no chemistry, you can make an easy exit, but I think I am also done with impatient dudes who want to meet after exchanging two emails. But, as Patti also says, "It?s important to remember that even if your date is not your dream guy, you are gathering information and experience, called Dating Data, that you will use on future dates with someone more to your liking." (Text taken from Patti's rules!)
This is another thing that has happened in online dating: whereas previously I felt that guys were more willing to actually I don't know, learn a few things about you, now after a few emails in which you both agree that yes, you do enjoy Flight of the Chonchords and no, you don't have a corporate job, and they stalk you on Myspace to make sure you are not repulsive, dudes want to immediately jump to meeting. Like that night.
So from now on: dinner dates. Like in Patti's club, at 4 or 5 star restaurants only. So getting a burrito does not count. I believe this eliminates any person who would actually date me but it may be time for an overhaul of my "standards". If anyone knows any investment bankers who enjoy dates with dirty mouthed chubby ladies who would like to take me to any of the restaurants listed here, let me know.